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Who should be a Mentor or a Coach?

Counselling, Coaching, and Mentoring is not Alternate Profession!  Nor should it be considered to be anyone's post-retirement plan.  It is a serious commitment.  It is a practice that requires constant research and learning, and it is for those who are genuinely equipped for it.  Being a coach or a counsellor in any stream or field requires certain expertise.  Having been a good or great player is not necessarily one of them  A successful career or award-winning performances are not requisites and certainly won't suffice.   In sports, we have seen many horrible failures that bad coaches have caused to top teams, or players.  Many of these coaches were excellent players and sportspersons in their hay days but didn't have the temperament of a good coach, while certain others have excelled in this role even though they had a less than average stint as a player.  It is so because coaching is a totally different ball game, much like leadership is.  Things have only been going f

How to find a guru?

Q: What is the way to reach higher consciousness?  Q:  How to find a guru?  Q:  Will u help me answer... Ans:  Firstly the question of higher consciousness:  Consciousness should not be looked at in this hierarchical manner of higher and lower.  It will confuse you, mislead you. That is what has happened to all religions, cults, philosophy, and the 100s of gurus. Nobody is higher or lower. There is no hierarchy.  Are you sure that you are at a higher level of consciousness than a fly or bee or mosquito?  Different yes, more expanded, probably but they are very good at what they do!  So higher or lower seems inappropriate. Spiritual pursuit is an existential one and not intellectual or philosophic. It is important to understand that in the world of consciousness there is no imperfection, incompletion… nature does not allow or accept any imperfection at all… there is  …only immense, the unlimited possibility of growth and expansion. It is only our human psyche that views growth or expans

ANYONE CAN LEARN!

  On learning: Since the time we are born, we are taught one skill after another. The one thing that everyone forgets to teach us is how to learn! That’s something most of us have learned by ourselves. Or one should say how our brain learned to learn. Just as the days of infancy are over and the world decides it should teach us, learning becomes a matter of need and not desire. The brain learns its first big lesson “you better learn or else!” Learning thus becomes a survival need than a festivity, celebration, wonderment! Our ability to learn out of joy and pleasure and our spontaneity is lost and is replaced by fear, pain, and punishment. A child never learns to walk because someone taught it how to. It learns to walk because it wants to walk. A child learns to talk because it finds it fascinating, all the conversations that happen all around him. It tries to speak on its own for the sheer joy of learning something new; for the sense of achievement, a reason for attention and approval